10 Coaching Tips That Will Make You A Better Man 2023

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1. Invest in your development: Many of us get stuck in the monotonous routine of going to work and looking forward to the weekend for rest and recreation, then repeating the same old process. Sometimes it’s hard to progress because you’re stuck in the cycle of earning enough to live, then you take on more responsibilities, the cost of living rises and you feel that you haven’t got the time to focus on yourself. What about what you want? Hire a coach/mentor or purchase a course which you can carry out in your free time which will help you develop and live the lifestyle you desire. Look at their reviews and book in a free call to decide on your next step. What’s the worst that can happen? You move in the direction of what you want, making life more purposeful. The values these interventions can offer is priceless and is a small price to pay with the results they can yield. Carrying out this tip alone will make the others come to fruition.

2. Prioritize organisation: Some men are great, some are not. Find the time to map out your week during your free time. This may take up 30 minutes on a Sunday afternoon in which you’d usually switch off from anything work related. There are plenty of templates online, I tend to break my weekdays into 3 hours chucks from when I wake up to when I go to bed (please feel free to drop me message if you would like a template which I have created). Following a structured plan allows you to get more done, when its time to take your mind of anything strenuous you can do so without feeling guilty or paranoid that you have forgotten to complete a task.

3. Write down your goals- Ideas in your head are great, but they can be forgotten. We process information using our different senses however 60-65% of men and women are visual learners. Having a visual representation of what you want, makes you a lot more committed to taking action.

4. Place time restrictions on your to do list- There’s nothing more frustrating and stressful than having a number of tasks on your to do list and not knowing when to do them. Placing time restrictions will allow you to become more organised. I personally create a to do list daily, however the aim is to complete everything I set out by the end of the week. That way I don’t beat myself up (metaphorically speaking) if don’t achieve my tasks on the day. Let’s admit, life happens, however it allows me to catch up in my free time.

5. Celebrate your wins- As men we put so much pressure on ourselves to be a success, we forget to celebrate when we achieve something good and do not enjoy the process. If you’ve achieved a target which you’ve set yourself or has been set for you, go for a nice dinner with your partner, have a glass of wine. Have a night out with your friends you can recover from, however I wouldn’t advise a 3 day bender with work on Monday!

6. Be more competitive- It’s in our nature to compete. That doesn’t mean you have to be the guy with the biggest muscles in the gym, it may be beating your PB on a run, winning an award at work etc. Put yourself forward, apply yourself and track your progress. When you see yourself progressing at something it gives you a sense of achievement, making you happier.

7. Make fitness a part of your lifestyle- For those that already do this, fantastic. However, a third of men have health implications as they are physically inactive. Find a physical activity that you like and make a start. If you have already started, then become more consistent and make it part of your lifestyle. Focus on the benefits you want to accomplish from carrying out the activity as opposed to feeling like you have to. Whether that’s weightlifting, running, swimming, martial arts, cycling there is something for everybody. Even if you hate the idea of anything physical, get yourself a running machine and walk whilst you watch Netflix for an hour of the day.

8. Open up- There are a number of statics which show that men who bottle up their issues will endure detrimental consequences and in some cases fatal. Find somebody who you can truly speak to who will listen whole heartedly whether it’s your friend, family member or partner. If you do not feel comfortable speaking to somebody close to you, I would advise speaking to a coach who you do not know as they will help you overcome your issues and develop into the person you want to be. If your issues are negatively impacting you on a consistent basis, speak to a therapist. I understand it’s difficult and, in some ways, goes against everything we are conditioned to believe (man up mentality) however being able to communicate your issues in the right way is a huge strength. Look at athletes such as the Tyson Fury who have come forward about their past struggles, do you look at him any less? No, you build even greater admiration for him for having the guts to speak openly about what he’s had to overcome to inspire more men to do the same.

9. Mend a broken relationship- We all have an ego and sometimes you don’t want to be the one to apologise or reach out first. Just remember that life is far to short to resent somebody over something that plays no part in your life now. Reach out, be the bigger man. When you do this, it will either be respected or ignored however you can be proud knowing you did. If the interaction goes well, it may lead you to mend another broken relationship.

10. Become more emotionally intelligent- This is something we stereotypically praise women for. Their ability to be vulnerable, open with their emotions and have a sense of acknowledging how others feel without them saying anything. Also, the ability to change your tone and language to produce a favourable outcome depending on who you are talking to. The more emotionally intelligent you are, the better your relationships will be with your family, friends and colleagues.

I hope you enjoyed these coaching tips and apply them to your life to achieve more successful outcomes and become a better man.

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